Some people endure a range of harmful habits and turn into people-pleasers because they are terrified of what other people will think of them. It usually happens to people who feel unworthy of better and who need affirmation from others. You can choose to accept it or not. You might, however, already be embarking on a path of self-improvement. Being highly empathetic and understanding of the reasons behind people's sometimes bad actions makes you nervous to speak up in front of others. It's also a means of hurting oneself as a result of other people's deeds. Some people have also been injured in the past, so they may act as though they don't care, but in reality, they have created a wall that no one can pass through. To show off their strength, they speak in an offensive manner and adopt a negative mindset. It's time to face the facts because we can't keep acting as though we don't care what other people think of us. I think it's possible to care for someone without having negative consequences.
1. How do I view myself?
To make sense of everything and everyone's comments, a little sincere introspection goes a long way. Try to write down your thoughts, values, and any areas where you feel you fall short. Consider posing the following questions to yourself: What are my strengths and weaknesses? What are my basic values? Who am I and what are my go-to phrases?
2. What do others think of me when questioned directly?
Another thing you can do to spice up your exercise is ask approximately five individuals how they would describe you. They can be all of your close friends or relatives, but they should be diverse people in life. Example: A extremely close friend who is not a family member, a family member, someone you met once at a school event or any other occasion, a professional such as a coworker, boss, or a teacher. Don't be hesitant to ask; often, people provide incredibly nice comments; you might ask them how they would describe you. You may even mention you're performing an interesting exercise and are curious about what others think of you. Whatever they say is their impression of you, and we often perceive ourselves through the eyes of others. I do not believe there is any way to go wrong. Trust yourself.
3. Are others' opinions genuinely accurate or fair? Will this opinion be relevant in a year, five years, or 10 years?
After you've collected your data, it's time to put these questions to the test. Anyone's perspective on these can assist us comprehend that the majority of negative opinions say no to these questions. You can also ask these questions regarding your own self-esteem and get the answers there.
4. How can I practice self-compassion?
If you see any drawbacks and realize you're being too hard on yourself, it might be a good idea to figure out what can help me be more self-compassionate with myself. If I could be my friend, how would I help myself? Will I treat myself the same way? Do I need to set appropriate limits with others? Try to figure out who your nicest and most compassionate friend is, write down how they exhibit it, and strive to be that friend to others and yourself.
5. What would my life be like if I did not care about other people's opinions?
Write as you imagine, see, and want it. It's like seeing a more serene version of yourself in the future. Using compassion can also be beneficial, but not at the price of ourselves, which brings me to my final question.
6. How do other people's opinions influence my decisions and happiness?
If people who constantly share their thoughts and acts hurt us repeatedly, it is time to move on and let them go. If you have tried your compassion and your limits do not work for them, then this is clearly a one-sided relationship. We don't have to try to fit in to feel lonely and alone. Our goal is to discover a few people who will grow with us and choose us every day because they understand us the way we understand them.
When it comes to social media and comment sections, I think we can all agree that it is their own mirror, and they are most certainly struggling. We can be compassionate towards them and leave them be; after all, they increase interaction, which is beneficial to a creator. We never know who is looking and feeling inspired by you.
So we learned how to reflect on a couple things here. There are also essential factors to consider when trying to care less about what people think of you in a healthy way. Building self-love for yourself is the first step toward feeling more confident in yourself, and having healthy boundaries that benefit you is another approach to support yourself if you are still stuck caring about other people's opinions. There is no quick way to be good that has been marketed to us because it sounds so appealing. Growing takes time and is a worthwhile adventure. Trust your process and continue to learn and evolve for the best! Continue to reflect and come back if necessary. More clarity wins; let our minds be at ease.
We are very proud of you for embarking on your new adventure to a better future. Leave us a comment if you discovered something new about yourself.
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