There is yet something called gut feeling or a higher consciousness that just shows or talks with you. It often sounds like you somehow manifested the weather or somehow things went that way because somehow you knew it. In all of us there is this truth knowing person. Sometimes it is silent because for years we have chosen a character through some hard lessons in life, critical changes or anything that made your life significantly different. Big part of it being silent is a low-self esteem where we downplay ourselves, lose our own truth and go deep into depression. Whatever it is, it is still there somewhere inside you and it is waiting for you to listen to it.
I believe that our brains are so powerful they observe millions of situations in our life and collect data. That helps it to know what to do, but depending on your traumas or coping mechanisms we don't use this. We listen to the first route that has been presented to us, we never quite question is it really true to me? With all of that said we can use this in our advantage and here is how I would find it.
1. Rewind back and think about the times you wanted to do something but you didn't. Write down your event and how you reacted.
Before we talked about your Timeline and Healing pain where we covered big events and wrote out our behaviors and what we learned. Now we can make these things our superpowers.
“When I was younger I always wanted to help my sister and mom because I felt like they were suffering. Instead I went further and mind my own business. I accepted their poor behavior around me and just kept it inside me.”
“I wanted to start Youtube but I was scared I am too awkward and weird. ”
2. Why does it matter or mattered to you now/then?
“Because I care about my family and I want them to also enjoy life. It actually affects me and I don't want to see them hurt.”
“Because a lot of people started this and I like to tell stories.”
3. Why do I think I can do it and why do I think I can't do it?
Sometimes we have limited thoughts that hold us back to do something new.
“I thought I can't do it because I was struggling also and I think maybe some part of me believed I can help them because I am their close person.”
“I can do it because I have my phone and why I can't because I think I am not enough for this.”
4. Ask as many why´s you can until you feel like you are repeating yourself.
“Why I care about my family is because they know me the best and if they are good we can all grow and enjoy life together”
“Why does it matter to me? Because I care about people the closest to me. I always wanted my family to see that there is brighter side to it”
After finding your deepest why of these actions it is easier to see your motives. Thanks to your motives you find that your deep why has always been in this scenario is you and your family. You don't like to see your family suffer so you wanted to make them all better. Although we know we can't do it, this is another topic already. Now if I start with asking these questions below it seems easier at least to find your main drivers and values. Looks like one of the values here is peace, good environment and family balance. Your struggles also can be used as your superpowers now.
5. What is something you are passionate about?
"I like to write poems and express myself. I like talking to individuals and having a good time. I like to see people around me happy and balanced."
6. What are your strengths and what does the world need from you?
"I think one of my strengths is always wanting the best. It is almost like this crazy positive person I have in me that wants to find the good in the bad."
7. What are the things I can share with people that can help them?
"I could start writing my poems, share them online and with friends. Have a deep talking session with family to see their perspective because maybe I am taking too much on myself."
Perhaps you have now more ideas of how to look at things that affected you when you were little and now you find the areas you can shine and share to the world.
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I hope this can give you a little sense of peace in your day. Until then keep on growing and keep choosing yourself because you are worth it!
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Start by reading: I take myself seriously, Setting up a new version of me, Revisiting my childhood, Timeline, Healing pain, Beliefs that hold us back, Finding my dreams and purpose, Actionable goals, Staying on track, Daily needs, Building self love, Daily reflection, Vision board, Revisiting lessons,
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